7 years ago, when I hit rock bottom from taking too many hard knocks and wrong turns, the biggest loss I felt was the loss of the real me. I didn’t even know who I was anymore.
I had spent so many years trying to please everyone around me, that it cost me more than I realised.
I had adjusted my personality for the people in my life who found me “too talkative”, I had adjusted my looks, my clothes my career all to fit in with what I thought other people found “more acceptable of me” and I didn’t even notice it happening until I woke up one morning and wondered “who am I and what happened to Fiona”?
Why do we do that? Sacrifice ourselves to make everyone else happy or make them like us.
For me it was a fear of rejection that I didn’t even know I had.
It had come from a compilation of painful life experiences that had created an unconscious belief that I was unworthy. Because of this, I was trying to be someone I thought others would accept and like.
But I lost the real me in the process.
At my worst, I was living a life that didn’t match my values. I was running a business that didn’t match my passions or gifts. I was a square peg wedged in a very unconformable round hole.
No wonder I had depression and anxiety, as my natural spirit responded with the ache of being stifled.
I had even securely tucked away my sense of humour and spirited, cheeky nature for fear of being unacceptable to others.
It was not until I had nowhere else to go but up, that I decided to reconnect with the real me and just be who I was and LIVE it OUT LOUD
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It was then that my life started to come together in profound ways beyond my imagination or control. The right people came around me, the right opportunities came along, as I accepted myself and everything I was, fully and completely. Depression and anxiety has also been gone ever since.
Have you changed anything about yourself to suit others?
Is it making you uncomfortable?
Have you neglected your true self?
It’s time to reconnect with and embrace all that is you!
You are amazing and you can either be an extraordinary version of you, or a very frustrated and average version of what you think others want you to be.
Be authentic, dress the way that feels comfortable, wear your hair how YOU want, be as loud as you want, be as funny and daggy and silly as you want and don’t apologise for it to ANYONE!
If someone doesn’t like you for you, then they are not meant to be in your life! Let them move on and only allow the people who will appreciate every drop of you to enter your world!