As the new year begins and we are all starting to think about things we want to change and achieve in the year ahead so here are some helpful steps to ensure your success.
If your NYR is to break an unhealthy habit, like smoking or eating sugar for example, try and focus on what you are ‘GIVING’ yourself rather than what you are ‘depriving’ yourself of.
If you focus is on the positives of your habit change it will be easier to stay motivated on your goal and feel less like a loss and more like a gain.
For example; if you want to lose weight, every time you think about the foods you are giving up to do so, switch your thoughts to the gifts your are giving yourself that enhance your body, your health, your brain function, your confidence, etc.
Focus on what you are ‘getting’ not what you are ‘loosing’! It makes it much easier to stay motivated and POSITIVE about change.
Remember, where your focus goes, your energy flows, so make sure it is flowing towards all of the things you are gaining from your change in habit.
If your NYR is to do something you’ve always wanted, like a special holiday or to do a course in something you are passionate about then you must ensure you set goals for it to happen and have them in your sights everyday, somewhere you have to read them. I have a whiteboard in my office to remind me of my goals (I am easily distracted by shiny objects and can/do digress frequently so I need this in my face)
Your goals must be ‘SMART’ Specific – Measurable – Achievable – Relevant -Timed
Specific – what exactly do you want to achieve?
Measurable – how will you know you are on track and getting there
Achievable – it must be something you can do (not, “get my pilots licence online in a week”)
Relevant – it must be relevant to you, your, needs, wellbeing and your long term visions and dreams. Not for the benefit or approval of someone else.
Timed – you must have an ‘achieve by’ date and mini goal dates along the way or it is unlikely to happen.
Write your SMART goal like it has already happened. Here is mine for Example; “it is December 2016 and I have completed my diploma of positive psychology and Wellbeing”
That goal is specific and timed, I also know for sure it is achieve and measurable (I’ve checked) and it is of course completely relevant to me, my needs and my vision for the futrue.
Then you need to set the small, bite size steps that get you there.
This is not as hard to do if you take the time to plan.
Another way to ensure success is to have an accountability buddy that keeps you on track and can encourage you.
If you would like some free resources to help you with you positive change and goal setting for 2016 send me an email email@example.com
Or you will find a whole chapter on Goal Setting in my book Transform Your Life
I would love to help you achieve your goals!
You can do this! Be all you can be and live a life you love