What happens when you are faced with a goal you want or need, but you can’t find the motivation to achieve it.
Recently I challenged myself to conquer my goal nemesis.
I have always struggled with exercise and weight loss. Whilst I didn’t have that much weight to lose, I was still technically overweight. As for exercise, I have soooooo many better things to do with my time and I really don’t enjoy the puffy, panty, sweaty, palpitative (I made that last word up), nature of the whole ordeal.
I realised however, that to be most effective and credible at what I do as a ‘life and career development trainer’, I needed to dig deep and achieve my seemingly unachievable to lead by example.
To achieve our goals, we need to first have a clear outcome in mind. What do we want?
Next, we need a really good and valid reason to achieve it. Why do we want it? Whats in it for me?
That’s our motivation.
We also need to answer these other questions:
Do I need to do this? (is it relevant and useful to me)
How bad do I want it? (am I prepared to hard work for it, or would it just be nice if it happened accidentally)
I have tried healthy eating programs many a time before, but I get to a point where I lose motivation and just give up.
So I had to look at what my motivation was and change it.
You know the old saying, (which I am paraphrasing); absurdity is trying the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
I asked myself, what has been my motivation and why isn’t it working.
My motivation was that I wanted to look skinny and fit into cuter outfits.
This didn’t work because I was actually very content the way I was. I didn’t mind being a little chubby, my husband thought I was gorgeous, I liked eating what I wanted, when I wanted and loved the fact that I didn’t have to waste an hour of my day exercising.
I needed a new motivation, so I dug deep and asked myself those questions again and changed the answers.
What do I want?
I want to be a healthy weight and build my core strength and fitness
Why do I want it?
I deserve to have a healthy body; I want to honour my body by looking after it.
I want to feel strong and fit for increased energy
I want less pain in my back, hips and feet
I want to feel good when I look in the mirror
I want to not turn into the Michelin man when I sit down
I changed the main motivation from looks to health which is more important to me. The health benefits were something that I felt I needed and deserved, rather than an empty and superficial ‘want to be skinny in cute outfits’
Now that was motivating!
Next, I got a picture of a size 10 girl in a cute summer outfit and wrote my ‘SMART’ goal on it.
This was my focus board.
Remember, SMART goals need to include all of these components to be helpful.
Specific, Measureable, Achievable, Relevant, Timed.
When you write your SAMRT goal, write it as if it has already happened, for example, mine was;
“It is Christmas and I weigh 65kgs and have strengthened my core by working out a minimum of 4 days a week, I have less pain and feel great”. This was 12 weeks ago.
With my new motivation at hand and my very clear, measurable and very achievable goals laid out. I went for it and I did it.
It was my Everest and I climbed it. I will be honest, it wasn’t easy, I had to overcome many excuses to not exercise and constantly struggled with snacking, but I still did it and so can you!
The feeling of accomplishment for me is the best part of reaching my goals and every goal reached is a step along the path of our true potential.
Struggling with hard goals is something we all face, we just need to first assess if it is really necessary for us to reach and if so, we must gather up all of our courage and go and do it! Because my dear friends, we deserve to be our best!
YOU CAN DO IT! GOOD LUCK!
Find Your Passions
Unlock Your Potential
Live Your Dreams
x Fiona x